Monday's CBS News published a lengthy article, Adoptees face sting of discrimination. Joan and her crappy adoption story were featured.This entry isn't about Joan's story however. You can go to her Forbidden Family webpage and blog and read about it (and her forthcoming book) yourself.
This entry is about the reaction to the story: the usual shut-up and be grateful comments. It was bad enough that Joan is sufficently ungrateful for being adopted and lied to in the most egregious ways, but when she voiced her unhappiness with the CBS article itself and offered up corrections, she went from being just plain ungrateful and whiney to being a heathenish example of what's wrong with Americans today. She wasn't called a Communist, though she clearly is!
I think my favorite responses are:
I was adopted forty years ago in CA. I always like to say that God chose my parents for me after I was born.....
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napsan22 1:23 PM
napsan22 1:23 PM
Wendy - God does not make mistakes. He gave you to your birth mother who gave you to your parents. Just a thought.
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tjsills 10:06 AM
tjsills 10:06 AM
I am very worried that once the openness of adoptions may come out, there will be an even bigger rise in abortions. People have abortions often to hide what they have done. Before abortions people were hidden away or ran away to give birth. Making everything "open" would set us back so far. There are plenty of "open" adoptions now. As far as those "way back", IF your birth parents are looking for you they will find YOU. Do NOT go looking for them and force your way in. There are too many ways to find each other and if you don't, then assume that it's because they don't want to be found. You truly don't know what you may have been saved from. Times have changed but we should force people chosing life to be put back in a closet or to make an even worse choice.
Posted by: kab4usa10:37 AM
I must say that once again I see one of America's problems: accountability. I did not succeed because I "was adopted." I didn't get the job because I "was adopted." I did not go to college because I "was adopted." Pick yourself up and move beyond. As a child that was adopted almost 41 years ago, I can say that I was lucky. Yes, I am white and was adopted by a white family. My older brother was not. Never once did I feel ashamed or unwanted. Never once was I discriminated against. Never once did I not feel apart of the family. If anything, I was special. This article is crazy and places people's issues and burdens on others instead looking towards the real source, oneself.
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marybethandtpurvis Nov-23
But this entry is also about other reactions.
One of the real fun things about blogging or having a webpage is going through your stats to see who or what is reading you. Why is someone in Albania reading about sealed birth certificates in Illinois? Why does somebody in Peru care about what I have to say about Madonna? Who could be looking for what with the keywords "Utah, Grand Funk Railroad, firemen, douchebag?" And, it's always fun to check out the people and organizations I've pissed off. European Adoption Consultants, for instance, went through a spell of checking in on me about every 90 minutes. For awhile I had a regular visitor from Haliburton. Apparently after the CBS article hit, Joan's stats hit the roof propelled by some pretty impressive ISPs.
Joan sent me and other activists the following email and has given me permission to repost it here. She adds that after further investigation it is the US House not the White House that's checking her out.
The Pentagon is reading my website! Ohhh! I am such a threat!!! Various IPs from around Washington have been reading my website for weeks, while my dysfunctional sisters still are causing me trouble to the point I must go to the police to stop their interference.
I must say that once again I see one of America's problems: accountability. I did not succeed because I "was adopted." I didn't get the job because I "was adopted." I did not go to college because I "was adopted." Pick yourself up and move beyond. As a child that was adopted almost 41 years ago, I can say that I was lucky. Yes, I am white and was adopted by a white family. My older brother was not. Never once did I feel ashamed or unwanted. Never once was I discriminated against. Never once did I not feel apart of the family. If anything, I was special. This article is crazy and places people's issues and burdens on others instead looking towards the real source, oneself.
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marybethandtpurvis Nov-23
But this entry is also about other reactions.
One of the real fun things about blogging or having a webpage is going through your stats to see who or what is reading you. Why is someone in Albania reading about sealed birth certificates in Illinois? Why does somebody in Peru care about what I have to say about Madonna? Who could be looking for what with the keywords "Utah, Grand Funk Railroad, firemen, douchebag?" And, it's always fun to check out the people and organizations I've pissed off. European Adoption Consultants, for instance, went through a spell of checking in on me about every 90 minutes. For awhile I had a regular visitor from Haliburton. Apparently after the CBS article hit, Joan's stats hit the roof propelled by some pretty impressive ISPs.
Joan sent me and other activists the following email and has given me permission to repost it here. She adds that after further investigation it is the US House not the White House that's checking her out.
Dear Friends in Adoption Reform,
Thanks to the negative/postive publicity of the ABC news article
The Pentagon is reading my website! Ohhh! I am such a threat!!! Various IPs from around Washington have been reading my website for weeks, while my dysfunctional sisters still are causing me trouble to the point I must go to the police to stop their interference.The White House also looked in on my website.
Yippey!!!
Will Somebody finally start paying attention to the real issues??
Oh, Maybe I'll be arrested. Good.
Go make some comments on my website. Make some comments on your own websites.
Discrimination against adoptees and our natural parents in the form of government seizure of our birth birth certificates and fraudulent new ones must end! We must win the civil rights to the truth of our births!
Sorry to be making blanket emails, and for not re-joining some memberships. Money is tight, but I will be back to BN and AAC and others soon. I have even let go my activism on Change dot gov. Dying parents and getting my book out are time consuming.
Love to all of you!!!
Joan
Joan also asked me to let you know:
Please make a note in your blog that I just got a call from the hospital. My adoptive mother is having a four hour blood transfusion right now --- 9pm.
We wish Joan well, and congratulate her for stirring up the trogs.
Hit Joan's website! Hit the CBS site. Hit your blogs. Bastards never shut up!
Joan also asked me to let you know:
Please make a note in your blog that I just got a call from the hospital. My adoptive mother is having a four hour blood transfusion right now --- 9pm.
We wish Joan well, and congratulate her for stirring up the trogs.
Hit Joan's website! Hit the CBS site. Hit your blogs. Bastards never shut up!
8 comments:
There's a guy in the article who says he's an "adoption triad life coach." Wonder what that job entails?
You know, maybe, that's a good question! Whenever I see "life coach" I get queasy. When "adoption" is put in front of it, I get queasier.
Joan totally rocks!!!! She is a crusader for us, adoptees.
So, the pentagon is scoping her out? Whoooooooooo, they better not check out adult adoptees dot org or they might find some reeeeallllly scary folk, like me! whooooooooooooooooo........
Dang! I keep tellin' you folks not to mention the falsified birth certificates that the states are so fond of issuing. It's bad enough that US Passport Services doesn't believe we were born in the good ol' USA because we can't produce our OBCs. That's adoptee-activist code for Original Birth Certificates, in case anyone is watching.
You know you've made it with the Pentagon notices you! Good for her! :)
Cedar
I love bastards who won't shut up. Good for you, Joan!
Hi All!
Thanks, Basdardette, for your wonderful post. And thanks for your comments here, my bastard friends!
Well, I can honestly say that The Pentagon sure woke me up, but all those IPs dotting the landscape around Washington DC --- Arlington, Bowie, Silver Springs...and even the Social Security Administration! Hah! They must think I am committing FRAUD with my falsified birth certificate cause you all know I DID IT MYSELF! YEP. Right over here with my scanner.
Someday I'll tell you about the guy I know who now lives in Bowie. Oh, he's in the book --- another ex-boyfriend who couldn't handle my life!!!
I needed this laugh tonight...Mom's recovering and back in nursing home.
My son was adopted by his paternal grandparents. His dad was also adopted by said grandparents, because my ex-husband's maternal grandmother adopted him when he was in grade school and Florida allows re-adoption of adults. So right now, legally, my son is his father's brother. Neither of them is even related to my ex-mother-in-law's husband. WTF. There are all kinds of reasons changing a birth certificate is a bad idea. I bet we could come up with more than the right-to-know and the fucked-up family trees...
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